A Daily Beast article reviews other articles and books arguing that standard monogamy is obsolete. Ana Kasparian and Michael Shure discuss.
From the Daily Beast article:
But Pamela Haag, the author of Marriage Confidential, isn’t so quick to call the whole thing off. Marriage is changing, she contends. But rather than giving up on it, why not simply redefine it in a way that works for each of us? Haag cites research showing that 65 percent of women—and a whopping 80 percent of men—say they’d cheat if they knew they wouldn’t get caught.
I don’t believe human-beings are biologically monogamous but they don’t need to be dishonest with one another. I personally think a lot of relationships fail when dishonesty is introduced into the equation.
Am I in the minority here? If my partner and I were in a closed monogamous relationship, there’s no way I would cheat on them - it’s beyond disrespectful.
A lot of the comments for this video and article contain people freaking out. I think it’s important to take this stuff with a grain of salt and just not listen to other people when it comes to your relationships with others - or at least not take it too seriously. Your mind will explode.
What do you guys think? Is monogamy obsolete or are their multiple ways to make human-relationships work?
Monogamy is by no means obsolete, but it’s something I think people are over-thinking in terms of other people; these relationship types should really only be applicable to your own personal relationships. Other people’s preference on openness in relationships should be just that, their own. I’m in preference towards monogamy, but I also have exactly zero qualms with other people doin’ their own thing. It’s not dead; there are just new socially acceptable things to add into the mix.
Yes. If a couple has agreed to do their own thing, and are clear with their expectations, they can do what they want, it’s their life. However, as someone that’s been cheated on multiple times, I definitely think that people need to make their expectations in a relationship very clear in this regard, and get the hell out if those expectations aren’t being met. Being cheated on multiple times sucks. A lot. After a certain point, is the relationship worth the pain?
And, if people in monogamous relationships could really consider if cheating is worth breaking their partner’s trust and potentially destroying their relationship, and also what’s wrong in their relationship that is causing them to want to cheat, that’d be cool. And if it’s that bad, why stay in the relationship, anyway? Ending it will suck for both people involved, but it’s better than being deceitful, and then both people can move on to better things.
